The world is going through a tough time right now. Our hearts go out to the people of Ukraine. Here are a few tips on how to be there for your kids during this difficult time.
1. MAKE TIME + LISTEN
Use open-ended questions so your child can lead the conversation.
Examples include “what do you know about what’s happening,” “How do you feel about it”?
Encourage them to tell you what they know, how they feel, and to ask you questions.
2. TAILOR THE CONVERSATION TO THE CHILD
Older children will need more details while younger ones may be satisfied just by understanding that sometimes countries fight.
Begin with simple information as too much detail may overwhelm and cause anxiety.
3. VALIDATE THEIR FEELINGS
"You can say it’s ok to feel scared and, depending on the needs of your child in that moment, even that you’re scared too. The most important thing parents can do is let kids and teens know they are not alone in how they’re feeling.”
- Michael Roeske, Newport Healthcare Connecticut.
4. REASSURE THEM
Reassure them that they are safe and that grownups are trying to help the people there.
Remind them that this is not their problem to solve.
They shouldn't feel guilty playing, seeing their friends and doing the things that make them feel happy.
5. GIVE THEM A PRACTICAL WAY TO HELP
Younger kids could create drawings calling for peace or things that make them feel happy. Older kids could start fundraisers or write letters to local decision makers.
6. BE HONEST
If you can’t answer a question they may have, acknowledge it. These are complicated questions that are an opportunity for critical thinking, investigation, and the acceptance of a reality where we don’t always have answers.
Some Organizations to Support
Save the Children @savethechildren
UNHCR @refugees
Voices of Children @voices_of_children
Hope for Ukraine @hope4Ukraine
World Central Kitchen @wckitchen
World Help @world_help
Razom for Ukraine @razom.for.ukraine
Care @careorg
Project Hope @projecthopeorg
